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[farnham]

I try to live frugally while looking for the RIGHT job in The U.S. Meanwhile, my sister is getting married in 3 months; and my parents offered to help with my travel expense to attend the wedding in Indonesia where they all live.

I don't have that kind of money unless I use 0% for 12 months credit card I have (I think it's a bad idea.) Though, I feel that I have been pressured to go.

I love being independent & grown up; yet, my feeling is hurt every time I told them my struggles (but happy life) in the U.S., and they said passive aggressively that no sympathy for me because I brought it to myself ETC. (I would have been fine financially living at home until married like traditional good asian girl.)

Should I politely tell them the truth?
OR should I let it go? (After all, they are human who can make mistakes.)
Should I go to my sister's wedding?

What would you do?

[elyakim]

Allow them to help but be willing to pay them back.
You have changed cultures and they feel that you have turned you back on your heritage.
As for using the credit card that is the worst possible thing you could do.
Check with the air lines and see what the cheapest flight is as leaving in the middle of the week and at night may help

[ludo]

Let it go.. prove your parents wrong and buy the ticket yourself and go to your sisters wedding.

Your sister will appreciate it.

My parents still kinda treat me like I'm 10 when I'm actually 27. I have had to prove them wrong a few times so they can get off my back.

[elmoor]

Let it go.. prove your parents wrong and buy the ticket yourself and go to your sisters wedding.

Your sister will appreciate it.

My parents still kinda treat me like I'm 10 when I'm actually 27. I have had to prove them wrong a few times so they can get off my back.

whenever my folks rag on me i try and prove them wrong, which is a lot, so i would try to save up for the wedding but if you can't come to a compromise with your folks. and ignore their nagging family is family there's no escaping it.

[cheston]

move to your aunt and uncle's house in bel air